(Directions: Place the number (0-4) in the first column (under "UR AN") corresponding to the word/phrase in the scales given below which best applies to you for each of the following statements in the Excel sheet. For statement No. 1: If you really have a balanced diet regularly, then choose "0" and type 0 for first statement on the first column (UR AN) of the excel sheet. Note down the final score at the bottom)
NINES By Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Nines
Nines believe that they have uncontrollable impulses and the best thing to do is to bury them and let others take control. This makes them seem very easy-going and friendly on the surface but means they have lost contact with their total presence. Nines can be free when they believe that everything within them is acceptable and nothing has to be suppressed.
Appearances
Friends, Family and Other Relationships
Nines are usually very easy to get on with, seeming just genuine and lovely with not a bad word to say about anyone. They often go along with whatever their friends, family or lover wants to do quite happily but usually there is some passive-aggressiveness present. They can have occasional outbursts of anger or seethe slowly for long periods. Normally however, their way of dealing with conflict is to bury their head in the sand and go vacant, leaving the room or just ignoring the person. They can be secretive in relationships too, continuing to do things that they know their partner would not want but doing it in secret.
Difficulties
Nines are subconsciously scared of the forces within them such as fury so they numb themselves by going vacant and daydreaming. However TV, food, alcohol and some drugs such as cannabis can have a similar effect so Nines can become addicts.
As Children
As children, Nines are friendly and calm. However, because they often go along with what their friends, they can seem naughty because they are they ones getting caught for joining in with what their quicker friends have managed to escape the blame for.
At Work
Nines work quite well, wanting to keep the peace and go with the flow of the organisation’s expectations. They can find it hard to decide what it is they want to do, and may end up stumbling into a job and staying there for the rest of their working life.Talking Style
Like their appearance, a Nine’s voice is soft, relaxed and friendly though they will pick up the qualities of those they are with too, so if they are with giggly, silly friends they will sound giggly and silly too, for example.
EIGHTS BY Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Eights
Belief
Eights believe that it is up to them to be a powerful force in the world. They can be free when they accept that they don’t need to try to impose themselves. If they accept the present moment and go with the flow of the universe, then they have found true power.
Appearances
Eights have an forceful energy that is noticeable, regardless of their stature. Often aggressive but not always so, when an Eight is around their presence dominates. They hold steady eye-contact that shows you they are in control. The main thing I’ve noticed about an Eight’s style is that they reflect their own self-worth. The Eight believes they deserve the best so they will treat themselves to quality clothes, shoes, haircuts and beauty/fitness regimes.
Friends, Family and Other Relationships
Eights can be very protective and loving but there is usually an forceful/aggressive side to their relationships. They can use playful bullying as a way of interacting with their friends which can be intimidating to some. They will show their dominance with regularity and can (for the sake of it) argue against whatever opinions or ideas you have.
Difficulties
Eights feel they are just being assertive and not wishy-washy and can be confused by the upset they can cause others.
As Children
From an early age, Eights will show they are not afraid of others, whatever age, which can make them very easy for teachers to spot in the classroom because they can be the worst behaved and most vocal. They are also the archetypal playground bully.
At Work
Eights are natural bosses and will like to take control of projects if possible. Alan Sugar and Donald Trump are both Eights, so you can see that Eights are not people who have much time for people pleasers or inefficiency. Of course, not all Eights are bosses but Eights tend to enforce their views strongly and forcefully at their workplace.
Talking Style
Eights speak confidently and clearly and don’t hold back with their opinions about things. They like arguing because it is a way of asserting dominance. Eights will often take the opposing stance, not really caring about the topic, just wanting to spar.
SIXES BY Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Sixes
Belief
Sixes believe that the world is dangerous so making allies is important. They can be free when they accept that although there will always be unknowns, that it's always possible to feel safe and secure in the present moment. They don’t need to make any connections apart from connecting to (and accepting) the power of now.
Appearances
Sixes are difficult to identify in regards to a typical style. They will very often wear what the social group they have allied themselves with would wear. Hence, you can have fashion-conscious Sixes, bohemian Sixes, body-building Sixes, sporty Sixes and so on. There is a nervous, uncertain energy about them that is usually apparent, although sometimes this can seem quiet and giggly, sometimes quite boisterous and jumpily aggressive. In the video below, it is Meg Tilly who is the six, not Kevin Costner.Friends, Family and Other Relationships
As with twos, friends, family and relationships are central to a Six’s life and they can be wonderfully thoughtful and helpful. However, the Six doesn’t need demonstrations of love and appreciation – they simply want to do what is necessary to keep the alliance together. There is usually some insecurity though and a needing to test the boundaries – so they can be sarcastic and aloof sometimes to see how others react.
Difficulties
Sixes struggle with fear and find it hard to relax. They like to be around people so if they are alone they can become more anxious and dejected. There is a tendency to align with a certain group and then see others as enemies so they can have a limited, black-and-white worldview. My grandma, for example, would often say that mothers going to work was the reason children were so badly behaved in schools.
As Children
Sixes are often helpful children and from an early age they are keen on making special groups of friends and joining clubs in and after school. Sixes are focused on rules and regulations of the organisation they are in so will usually be well-behaved, though they might occasionally test the boundaries.
At Work
As well as rules, Sixes are very aware of authority figures and have a tendency to complain to others about the authority figure in their workplace – though they would normally be too fearful to confront them directly. Work is a major part of a Six’s life as they like to identify themselves with an organisation to make them feel safer… they may work hard and well but normally wouldn’t try to rise to the upper levels of management, which would feel too risky.
Talking Style
Sixes have a nervy, quick style of talking which may be witty and giggly or pejorative and grouchy.
FIVES by Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Fives
Belief
Fives believe they are vulnerable and that understanding it is important so they gather knowledge throughout their lives. They find relief when they accept that there are things that are ultimately incomprehensible to the human mind, such as the universe and their true selves. They can develop faith that it is a benevolent universe and everything is as it should be.
Appearances
Fives can seem like minds which happen to have bodies carrying them around, meaning they can walk around with their head leading the way, sometimes giving a stooped posture. They very often wear glasses, which makes me wonder if their fixation to understand the world around them has led them to strain and distort their vision at an early age. Their clothes and hairstyle can be noticeably eccentric as they like to feel separate from society’s conventions and enjoy showing they don’t need to fit in.
Friends, Family and Relationships
Although Fives can be reserved and distant around strangers, they are known to closer acquaintances for being vocal about their interests and opinions, sometimes talking at great lengths about subjects that others are losing interest in. This can make others reluctant to spend lots of time with a Five. They can be disdainful of others who hold beliefs that differ from their own. Because they hold things at a distance, it can take time to express deeper feelings about someone they love. It can seem like they don’t really know how to express themselves (even with someone they have been in a relationship with for years) .
Difficulties
Fives are very sensitive and emotional people, but they have distanced themselves so much from others, they can feel at a loss for how to act in the world. This can manifest in social awkwardness and physical withdrawing from the world, staying at home and thinking about things. They often see that the society they live in is flawed and don’t know how to find their place in it... the safest way being to surround themselves with the things they are interested in (computers, literature, moth collections…).
As Children
From an early age, Fives show the obsessive need to understand and be experts in certain fields, so they are often quiet, thoughtful children who are avid readers, coin collectors, computer game players… whatever arouses their interest.
At Work
If Fives find a job that is aligned with their interests then they can really excel because it is second nature to them to strive to be the best in their field. A major problem that can arise is that Fives feel distant from society’s conventions and think it would be mad to try and conform to expectations. Therefore, some fives can spend long periods of time not working… unemployed, travelling, staying on people’s sofas. Talking Style
Fives may be distant but once they get going on a subject they know a lot about, it can seem like there is no stopping them. In conversation, Fives like to demonstrate their superior knowledge and use a wider vocabulary than most.
FOURS by Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Fours
Belief
Fours believe that they are somehow extraordinary and use their emotions and imagination to strengthen this, while also seeking recognition from others. They can find freedom when they learn to appreciate the simple, ordinary parts of life and accept that they are no more special than anyone else. They can find joy and meaning from just being present with what is, rather than an idealised version of how they should be.
Appearances
Fours are aware of how others perceive them but think of themselves as above vanity. They like to make sure they look natural and unaffected. Their clothes may be bohemian, elegant or from charity shops/thrift stores, but they will aim to project an image of someone who is naturally stylish, not trying too hard. Fours often have a darkness about their aura which can manifest in dark clothes and, especially in teenagers, in the stereotype of the goth or ‘emo’. You can spot fours because their habitual expression is often lost and contemplative, searching inside to understand why they are suffering.
Friends Family and Other Relationships,
Fours are intense with people they know well and can spend a lot of time talking about themselves, their dreams and how much they are suffering, so friends and family can find this draining. They can also be great fun and come up with creative games and ideas. Jealousy and insecurity is a feature of a four’s loving relationships – they can find it difficult if a partner is ‘doing better’ than them in some way, and at their worst can imagine that their partner is having affairs or planning to leave them, and even search for evidence for this.
Difficulties
Fours are particular attached to suffering. They feel that they are elite but that somehow this is not being recognised, because they still have to work at ‘ordinary’ jobs for example, or haven’t had much interest in their latest artistic project. The focus of attention is on what is missing and out of habit, suffering itself becomes their mark of being special, their identity. They can stay at home, feeling too self-conscious and depressed to get out into the world and meet people and get things done.
As children
As a teacher, I have found some Fours very easy to spot because they are often the students who are painfully shy in class and find it excruciating to have to speak in front of others. Others fours children are more confident and cheerful, but still relatively quiet and can seem ditzy and/or introspective.
At Work
A Four's dream job involves an artistic expression of their inner vision. Given time, Fours are known to come up with creative and effective ways of working in any field. They can be inefficient though, because they are feelers rather than quick thinkers. Fours can give the impression they don’t feel happy at the workplace, as if it is below them and they don’t want to be there. They can also be self-conscious about mistakes and seem over-sensitive and embarrassed if they get pointed out.
Talking Style
Fours can be quite easy to identify because when they talk they reveal a lot about themselves and their feelings, even with strangers they have started to chat to on a train journey. There is often a melancholy tone to the voice. Sometimes there's also a tendency to pretend to be more naïve than they really are. This could be an attention-seeking strategy that also encourages others to be gentle and sensitive around them. I've noticed it in my mother, myself and other fours.
THREES By Joshua French
Spotting and Understanding Threes
Belief
Threes believe that they need to be applauded and successful. They work hard to maintain an image of efficiency and confidence to impress others. They can find freedom when they perceive that true success is accepting and enjoying the present moment, and stop trying to prove themselves. What a relief it is then to be satisfied with what is.
Appearances
Threes usually dress well, dress to impress. They are the type who would be most aware that certain labels and brands project an image of success more than others, but they wouldn’t normally be over the top about flaunting it. Whether they have been blessed with traditional good looks or not, they will work hard to make the best of themselves. So going to the gym, getting pricey haircuts and subtly posing while going about their everyday business are all second nature to a Three.
Friends, Family and Other Relationships
Threes can be lovely, loyal friends and relatives, but their career and image can seem like their overriding priority and the place they direct the majority of their energy. They may subconsciously choose partners and friends who will either aid them in their careers or be part of the successful image they want to project.
As Children
Three children like to succeed and be liked, so high achieving and popular girls and boys are often threes. I’ve noticed that Threes are not always very well behaved, as often it is popularity and being the 'star' of the classroom which is the main concern, not just impressing teachers.
Difficulties
Threes may not notice they are having difficulties, because they are spending so much of their time focusing on their successful that they don’t have time to see what is wrong. A growing sense of emptiness comes when, even after achieving goals that they had set themselves, they still haven’t achieved the sense of satisfaction that only accepting the present moment could give them.
Work
Threes are efficient and image conscious, making them excel in interviews and at rising up the career ladders. They work hard to project the publicity-friendly, acceptable face of the company they are working for, so are not the archetypal aggressive boss. Threes are known to cut corners if they can get away with it (that those higher than them in hierarchy won’t notice) which can be noticeable by co-workers on the same tier.
Talking Style
Threes can have a fixed stare when they are talking to you which comes across as fake, as if they are pretending they are listening to you but are still much more interested in how they are coming across. They may name-drop, and casually mention new projects or acquisitions to show how successful they have become.
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